I’m going to go ahead and take a guess here. The last time you had any ‘Me time’ was……………………………………..?
Hmm, I thought as much, and I get it. Believe me.
But before we start talking about the uninterrupted shower from last Saturday, or that trip to the supermarket without the kids, we have to stop right there for a second.
I have to tell you something that I need to remind myself regularly.
‘Personal care and running errands are not ‘Me time’. That is maintenance, my friend’.
We become so used to not scheduling time for ourselves, that we forget what it is. We suffer from ‘Me time’ amnesia.
I am guilty of it. 100%. I have this habit of putting it off for later.
I tell myself I will ‘when there is time’, which loosely translated means ‘I will push it off my to-do list’. ‘I will reschedule’, except I don’t.
Suddenly, my tank is empty, I’m exhausted, in a ‘shut the world out’ heap on the couch, watching old Gilmore girls episodes at 11 pm and wondering how the heck I got here?
The warning signs have been there…I’ve just ignored them for too long and now I’m lacking enthusiasm. It’s a mini burnout. Everything seems bigger, every problem – less fixable.
I was reading about turtles the other day. They are incredible. They can swim thousands of miles and stay underwater for seriously long periods of time without coming up to the surface. But, as amazing as they are, even they need to come up for oxygen eventually. They can’t keep going with out it.
And we need oxygen too, right? Obviously, the breathing kind, but also for our soul.
We need to spend time doing things that refresh us, things that help us feel ready to take on the world again.
For me, it’s being at the beach watching the waves crash onto the sand, the sun on my skin, the quiet sounds of nobody yelling ‘Muuuuuuuum’ for at least an hour. Just me, alone with my thoughts.
Whether it’s socialising, creating art, being out in nature, or even running, we have to encourage ourselves to schedule it in. Make it first on your list, because without it, it’s hard to keep up with everything else.
It’s nearly impossible to live inspired lives, if we are not feeling refreshed and inspired.
So right now, I am off to write my ‘me time’ into the diary. Fully locked in.
How about you? What are you doing in the week ahead that is just for you?